How I Reclaimed My Joy After Heartbreak — And How You Can Too

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After the love of my life left, I felt like I’d been knocked to the ground and left there. I was a single parent with two kids and no space to collapse, even though every part of me wanted to. I couldn’t think about the pain all day — I had mouths to feed, homework to check, hugs to give. But that heartbreak? It was still there.

I didn’t know what I was doing at the time — I just needed a way to survive the day without falling apart. That’s when I started writing. Three times a day. Morning, afternoon, and evening. I poured out my desire to have him back… or to have love again that felt real. I didn’t even know there was a method to it — I just knew I couldn’t obsess 24/7 or I’d lose my mind.

Eventually, I added a nighttime ritual with a candle. Some nights I chose a love scent like Cinnamon Vanilla or Coconut Cream + Cardamom. Other nights I lit Clean Cotton or White Sage + Lavender, just to get some clarity or peace. I didn’t realize it then, but what I was doing was powerful. I was setting intention. I was trusting. And I was finally releasing the grip that heartbreak had on me.

Later I found out that what I was doing is very close to the 369 method — an intentional practice tied to sacred numerology and spiritual alignment. Here’s the core truth:

🌀 Thinking about what you want all day will push it away.

We don’t attract from desperation. We attract from calm. From clarity. From a space of “I’m okay now, and I trust what’s next.”

The 369 method is built around that principle. You write your desire 3 times in the morning, 6 times in the afternoon, and 9 times at night. In between? You live. You love. You laugh. You show gratitude for what you already have. You do your dishes and play with your babies and keep your vibration up. That’s the real magic.

I didn’t know it then, but my kids were my anchors. They reminded me of what I did have — unconditional love, purpose, and divine gifts I hadn’t even uncovered yet. The more I stayed focused on those blessings, the more aligned I became with what I truly needed… and eventually, what I wanted came back around in an even better form.

If you’re trying to attract real love — whether it’s someone from your past or someone brand new — this method helps you reclaim your power. You’ll stop chasing and start calling in.

Want to try it?

🖊️ I’ve created a Free 7-Day 369 Journal you can download right now in my Kaleidoscope Shop under Books. You’ll also find the expanded version available on Amazon:

🕯️ Pair your journaling with a candle ritual each night. Each candle in my shop includes a guide to which scent matches your intention:

  • Cinnamon Vanilla – Love & Prosperity

  • Coconut Cream + Cardamom – Love & Creativity

  • Clean Cotton – Clarity & Renewal

  • White Sage + Lavender – Protection & Cleansing

  • Atlantis Whisper – Intuition & Wisdom

  • Peppered Passionfruit – Energy & Confidence

  • Sea Salt + Orchid – Peace & Balance

  • Apple Harvest – Abundance & Wealth

  • Christmas Warmth – Joy & Prosperity

  • Unscented – Pure Intentions

You can find them all in my shop.

Whatever your belief system — whether you talk to the Universe, to your ancestors, to God, or to your higher self — this process helps you declare your desire, own it, and then release it.

I’m not promising a miracle overnight. But I am living proof that even in heartbreak, even in chaos, you can return to joy.

Words are spells. Energy is sacred. The intention is the magic.

With love and fire,
Carma